Why Does My Teenager Steal?
by Ron Huxley
Does your teenager have a problem stealing?
Would you like to learn how to deal with the issue of
your child taking things that do not belong to him?
There are quite a few ways of handling this problem
but the first step is to really understand your son or
daughter, and why he or she is stealing in the first
place.

Over the years we have found out that
many
teenagers steal
because they believe that they are
unloved and do not belong. A young teen that feels
this way tends to think that they have the right to
hurt other people because "nobody cares about
them". And all he is trying to do is make up for that
pain that they feel. This is what is called the
"revenge cycle".

It is for this reason that you must make sure that
your child feels loved and knows that they are
wanted. Find ways to let them know that they are
important to you and the rest of the family. Be sure
to separate the deed from the doer and show love
while working out a plan to fix the problem.

Another reason
why children steal is because it
seems like the only way that they can get what they
want. Many parents take the idea of not spoiling their
teenagers a little too far and offer nothing to them in
terms of ownership.

Of course do not feel that you have to give them
what they want every time your son or daughter asks
for something, but rather make sure that there is a
way that they can earn money or allowances from
you. Set up a family system where they can take on
responsibilities while at the same time earning a few
dollars. This will go a long way in preventing your
teenager from stealing.

Keep money from sitting out in the open. Oftentimes
teens will take money because it is just laying out in
the open and it is too tempting to pass up. Learn
how to keep your money and your valuables out of
site and in a safe place.

If you have two or more kids in the house and you
suspect that one of them is stealing from each other,
then start immediately to help the issue by getting
them their own private lock box in order to protect
their items.

Last but not least, if your teenagers are stealing
from another sibling, then it may be due to jealousy
in the house. Ask your children whether they believe
that you favor one of them over the other. Listen
attentively and do not dismiss their feelings.

Even if they think that you are indeed favoring their
brother or sister, even if it is totally false, do not turn
the other way. Listen to their response and discuss
with them how you feel and be sure to keep the
discussion in a positive manner, without criticizing
them.
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